The Ugly Phase

About once every few months, I decide to try to let my hair grow out, just to try something different. Sometimes I get tired of the same look, the typical dark ceasar.
And each time I journey into the hair unknown, I have to say to myself, be patient...don't cut it off. A few weeks may go by,where if I'm lucky I'll just get an edge up and feel some sort of success. But then, my hair will get to the point where the edge up doesn't really save it. It doesn't take the eyes off of the fact that my hair has become fuzzy in the back and no matter how often I brush it, it won't lay flat. This is the beginning of what we call "the ugly phase". The ugly phase is the accepted transition that must take place during hair growth. Your hair will get to a stage where its not short enough to manage, yet not long enough to do what the end result is requiring it to do. Its ugly. Plain and simple.
And u have to accept it and still continue to groom it, knowing that the only way to get it where u ultimately want it to go is to give it the attention that it deserves, no matter how it looks. U have to he patient with it. U must accept it for what is. And when people ask you about it, you have to be able to just say, "I'm letting it grow. This is not the end result. Check back with me in 3 months and it'll look great."
Eventually with consistent washing and conditioning and grooming, your hair will indeed grow faster and faster, to eventually grow long enough to where you can style it, cut it, braid it or curl it to your liking. Many people want to achieve the long, full hair result, but not many are patient enough to go through the ugly phase, in order to get where they really want to be.
So, just like most people, I always end up cutting my hair, right when it gets to the ugly stage because it is not what I envisioned, nor does it look good.

In saying all that, this is how so many of us treat our relationships. We give up when they get to the ugly phase. In the beginning, when things are manageable and problems are small, things are great, comprimising is not an issue and we are just so much in love. Then, as time goes on, the infatuation has died, the passion isn't what it once was, the dirty clothes begin to pile up, and all of a sudden, comprimise is a little slower and understanding is just a punchline.
We lose sight of the end result for the current state, the ugly phase. We go from, till death do us part, to just let me get thru today. We've been warned and we know full well that storms will come and that relationships don't have a blueprint.
u have two constantly growing people trying to grow as one. Its not meant to be easy! The ugly phase is a necessary transition in a relationship, just as with hair growth. If u want a fuller, healthier, longer relationship that is worthy of admiration, u have to accept the ugly phase for what it is...a necessary transition to where you want to be. Embrace the ugly stage, make fun of it, allow it to grow widly, and teach you how to manage the unknown. In doing so, u'll appreciate the end result of a fulfilling relationship.
So if u encounter someone all up in your business, questioning "why r u with him, or why r u with her", answer, were going thru the ugly phase. Check back with us in 12 months.