Happy Mother's Day!

Man, it's been a minute since i've blogged,sheesh! and it hasn't been because i haven't had anything to talk about, but rather i've just been busy as hell trying to do a million things in one lifetime. However, i'd be remist if i didn't take this opportunity, on this day to honor Mother's Day and just to reflect on how important my mother has been to me. Just like every other person who has ever needed a band-aid, some candy, lunch money, jordans...wait, moms NEVER copped me any J's..but i won't put her on blast for the pro-wings.....anyway, just like everyone else who's ever taken for granted all the things that mom has to endure, overcome, sacrifice and bear the burdens of, I am so indebted to my mom for the things that she never gave me. yeah, i said it right. of course, she gave me unconditional love and all the things that a mother without the "how to raise a child" book would give. but the things that she didn't give me really helped me become the man that i am today. She didn't give me any name brand clothes. She used to always say, "i'm not puttin anybody's name on your behind". yo, i thought that was the illest cop out i'd ever heard! she'd be like, "why put someone elses name on your behind. put your own name on your clothes. now, of course i didn't get it at the time, but what that taught me was that i didn't have to dress like everyone else or have the trendy fashions to look nice. and now that i can afford to buy that stuff, i don't. cuz i really don't want to see someone's name all over my clothes! she never bought me shoes when i wanted them, but rather when she felt i needed them. it sucked, but it taught me to take care of what i have because i never know when you'll get something else. to this day, i still clean my forces with bleach and wash my strings. she never gave me credit for things that i was supposed to do. when a lot of kids would get mcdonals for getting A's on their report card or money for doing chores, she'd say, "this is what i expect of you. this is not extra. i'm not rewarding what you are supposed to do". that tought me the value of hard work and how to work with out expecting recongition from anyone else. when i'm working, its because i do what i have to do in order to do what i want to do..not for the pleasure of anyone else. my moms never gave me any sympathy when we didn't have money or food or when our lights went out. instead, she gave me the courage to overcome ANY obstacle in life. she never gave me the opportunity to disrespect her or any other female. before i could even talk, she would say, "if u ever think of hitting me or cursing me, i'll hit u upside your head with this skillet"! and trust me, she repeated that twice a week with the same passion every year until i moved out. there was simply one rule...THIS IS MY HOUSE. IF YOU DONT LIKE IT...LEAVE! that lesson, taught me humility and respect for all women. because as many times as i thoughy my moms was wrong, or what she said may have been ill, or if she deserved a stalephace...i never got out of line with her or any with any other woman out of respect for my mother. she never gave me the chance to be irresponsible or not to be held accountable for my actions. everything i did had a consequence and she made sure that you were aware of that. and when the consequence was bad she'd say, "just own it". that wasn't always easy..and it still isn't. but just owning it keeps me accountable today and if helps me keep others in my life accountable for what they do. moms would always say, "i'm not telling you what to do. i'm telling you what i'm going to do and give you the choice to deal with it or not deal with it." man, to a kid....that was way too much to handle..but it is so profound. she made u think u had a choice, but u really didn't. its like, i'm getting in the car and driving off...but u dont have to. another one of her famous quotes was, "if you gone do it...do it and dont bitch about it, or if you not gone do it, don't do it and don't bitch about it. either way, don't bitch about it." probably the most important thing she never gave me was an excuse! there have been so many things in my life that i know she would do differently, so many things that she wishes she could take back and so many opportunities that i didn't get because of circumstances....but never did she give ONE DAMN EXCUSE for any of the shortcomings that we experiences. those things along with the band-aids, the candy money,the rides to the skating rink and all the things that we think mothers are supposed to do have made me who I am today and i want to say Thank You mom for not giving me so much! Thanks for making me live it, earn it and own it!

To all of the other mothers in my life, i want to say happy mothers day to you. Grandma, Tee, Shirlethia, Nee-Nee, Trecie, Tamika, Lisa, Val, Shiela, Tony, Inez, Joy, Janet, Nita, Grandma Jackson, Faye, Alanna (thank u), Mrs. Rosie, Nita, April, Ashley, Co-Co, Missy, Bettina, Shonda, Shawn, Cynthia, Myriam, Felicia, Carol, Ebony R.(soon to be), Shay, Ashlee Poo...All the women and single mothers who take their son's to get a hair cut.

Happy Mother's Day

Peace,

Ramont.